Not Only for Fans

Did I grab your attention? I have no desire to have an account on Only Fans, I don't desire to make money off my body. However, I do understand that pictures are a part of grabbing attention of others, and if you clicked on this post, so do titles.

When I was looking for a new job, the title was really important to me, because I needed my title to go in one direction...UP. Then I realized that's not the only area in my life where a title has been important to me.

When I was single, I didn't mind the title of being single. What I minded was the misconceptions, the assumptions and the questions that would keep growing as my age kept going UP.

When I got married, I thought it was going to be different saying I was married, I'm a wife, I have a husband. But now I find myself saying names over titles. I am Hadley, I am Hadley Schafer, formerly Hadley McClellan. Now, technically, Hadley McClellan Schafer.

I was nervous about changing my last name, I was nervous my identity would leave me like my middle name left me. The name I was given after my godmother. But then I went through the process of changing my name, and I couldn't wait to say it. It took four months for someone to actually refer to me as Mrs. Schafer. I loved it. But my identity isn't in my new last name.

My identity isn't tied to wife, vice president, owner, teacher, dog mom, aunt, sister nor daughter. My identity is tied to the purpose I give to the name Hadley. To whom houses my heart and my mind, to what I do to give back, to stand up, to listen.

I got a new last name, but more importantly, I gained a partner. I started a new business, but I gained trust from others to work alongside.

I dropped the title and gained a new perspective. And I learned that there aren't only fans, there are not fans of my drive, my changes, the way I handle stress or set my boundaries. So maybe I don't have a saucy side gig in selling pictures of myself or my feet online called only fans, but I'm embracing not only my fans aka my supporters, my advisory committee, my circle, but I also embrace the non fans to keep me driving toward what I firmly believe is the only true title I am attached to...me, Hadley, this woman who...

Lives

Laughs

Loves

is married to her soul mate

is friends with her soul's mates

is loyal

is funny

is working hard to follow the path the universe set aside for me

is embracing change, pain, age.

And finally, all of the lessons I learn. When I learn who aren't fans, who don't cheer for me in the corner,

My wonder woman pose

I move their location in my mind so I can make room for only fans in the corner, front rows, middle seats so we can say it louder for the people in the back...[insert your name here] is here to make life happen! Join me and be a fan of yourself, your purpose, your name.